The title says it all. Okay, maybe not to the extent of my featured image but yup, I got harassed by someone through the internet.
I am not posting to expose that person or what so ever.
I just want to warn everyone to not be as naive as me about people you meet online through games.
You would think I would change my URL, my twitter and everything. Nope, why should I cave in like a coward when all I did was….
Give a 4 letter word, my name ._.
Aww, J Hutch looking like a cutie patootie. *coughs* Back to the story 😛
WHAT WERE YOU THINKING,MUNA?!?!
I thought it was alright because it wasn’t my full name. Little did I realise that you can search me up on Google. Well, I am so popular apparently. (oops, too narcissistic)
Before I go into the details of this. Let me spell out what I feel is harassment.
What is Harassment?
“Harassment is a type of behaviour that offends, upsets, torments or disturbs another individual. This also includes threats and demands.”
This is adapted from Dictionary.com.
Let me also spell out the Protection against Harassment Act (Singapore) (Chapter 256A) (Lawyer friends please check if I quoted the right thing.)
It is any kind of offending communication or published communication. Communication meaning that through messages, words, expressions, symbols or any other representation.
What are the charges?
“If the harassment is intentional:
The person would be subjected to section 8, shall be liable on conviction to a fine not exceeding $5,000 or to imprisonment for a term not exceeding 6 months or to both.”
This is just the general section that the offender would be subjected to. Source and you read about it more on: http://statutes.agc.gov.sg/aol/search/display/view.w3p;page=0;query=DocId%3A07275b05-417a-4de5-a316-4c15606a2b8d%20Depth%3A0%20Status%3Ainforce;rec=0
I included this not to scare people but to say, don’t anyhow go and harass people.
Every one of your action has an equally opposite reaction. That’s Newton’s third law to you.
Here’s the back story of this incident:
(I won’t sugar coat anything, this is my side of the story.)
I play this online game, let’s call it Egg cos I am craving for it now. – Makes a mental note: Have Egg for Sahur-
I have been playing on ‘Egg’ since I was 15. I initially joined because I was a sad and lonely person in school. I had close to no friends. I wasn’t like how I am right now. I made friends online, around my age and I felt a little more accepted. Then, time progressed and I entered tertiary education where I was too busy to bother with the game. Eventually I stopped playing on ‘Egg’ about 2 years ago.
One day, in May, I missed my online friends a lot so I got back on ‘Egg’ to see how everyone was doing. So from time to time, I logged in to see how everyone was, it felt familiar and nice. Of course I made new friends as well. I made friends with ‘cream’. I am saying cream cos it was the first thing I saw when I turned my head.
‘Cream’ and I share the same timezone and so it was easy to talk to her, she was nice and all. She told me her real life name and I did too, because like I felt bad. Things went bad when she kept accusing me of lying to her and that I was another character. SLOW DOWN…
I barely had time to manage that one character that I had, I was struggling with school and other personal stuff. She did not mention it once or twice, it was countless times. I got frustrated when she unfriended me, tried explaining and was upset when she didn’t believe . I was like okay can, don’t believe lor.
A few days later, she talked to me again. I was like fine, I let her in. Then suddenly she told me she lied about her personal information. This is kind of where I got really frustrated and felt betrayed cos I was naive and honest. Besides, she also got angry at me for supposedly lying when the whole time, I wasn’t the one lying right? I mean ‘lie about myself for what’. I was clearly hurt and may have said things that hurt her.
I told her I needed space, she gave me three days but I wasn’t ready to talk about it. Then I don’t really remember what happened but she got really mad at me for not accepting her countless apologies. I’m a human and I needed time to process everything, okay? Then I accepted it and yet, she made a huge fuss about it. After an hour later, She apologised again for a fuss and I accepted it but clearly said that I didn’t want to be friends anymore. Why be friends when all we do is argue right? The friendship was toxic.
Then she apologised again and I told her I needed space.
One week later, yesterday, I just randomly logged in to see and just play for a bit like as a leisure after my tiring day. I received a message that said: ‘Wait til your life gets destroyed by that person you see in my profile., from a different character that ‘cream’ had.
I was like ‘what the hell did I do’ in my head. I was like whatever, she is just playing around, like ignore and all. But this right here, is a threat or rather harassment. As a victim, I chose to just report it to a staff because at first, I didn’t know it was ‘cream’.
Then few minutes later, I received another message saying how she didn’t mean it literally. What now? Make up your mind la. Bipolar much?
By now, I knew it had to be her, I linked two and two together.
I chose to ignore it and just proceeded with my life. Then I logged into WordPress, clicked on stats and noticed that one of ‘Egg”s website page was a referrer to my blog. Isn’t that crazy because I never gave my link to anyone besides ‘key’, a friend I had known for 5 years. It couldn’t be ‘Key’ because I saw the location of the referral. I know where ‘Key’ lived and so it didn’t add up.
Then I was sure it was ‘cream’ and no one besides no one really knows my part of my real name because everyone else calls me by my IGN -.-
She had put up my social media links and my blog links on that page. Initially, I panicked big time, hyperventilated and threw up because I didn’t know how she got them. (MY FIRST TIME OKAY.) Then I asked her nicely to take it down but no avail, even said I would call the police if she did not. She told me to call the police.
Can you believe it? 😮 Of course I did not, for reasons that I will explain later.
Then I report again to the staff using message.
Anyways, I have a separate Skype for gaming with my IGN. I skype voice called ‘Pooh’ who I have known for 5 years and has been a good friend of mine for the first time cos I was so panicky. Initially, ‘Pooh’ thought I was calling for a teenage crisis but I had to tell him what happened. He understood, listened and calmed me down. He even tried to contact the game staff for me so that the information could be taken.
A few hours later, she took it down on her own accord. The staffers took the necessary actions and contacted me about it. As of now, I have private all my social media. If you need them, drop a comment below, I will email them to you. Sorry that it has to be this way because of what has happened.
It is my fault partly for the way things turned out. So… if you are probably reading this, ‘cream’…
Here’s an open note to ‘Cream’:
I’m sorry but after everything that has happened, I just feel that our friendship is nothing but toxic, I am not saying you are toxic, let me make that clear. I am not blaming you here but it is also my fault some where and somehow. It takes two hands to clap. It just wasn’t working out, I see no point trying to mend what is broken here. I’m sorry that I longer want to be your friend. I hope you can accept that and move on.
After last night, I can no longer find it in me to forgive you but only to not report you the police. I don’t want to ruin your life especially after I looked up the laws. What you committed was harassment and unlawful stalking in some way. I am not vindictive towards you to the extent to do that to you, I only said I would call the police to make sure you didn’t even get in trouble with the staffers. There was still a part of me that had affection towards you even if I had typed in caps.
However, if you are gonna carry on with tormenting me, I would not hesitate to escalate it to the police and it wouldn’t be in your favour. My parents know about this and they support my decision if it amounts to that.
Lastly, here’s a song for you:
It’s too late for anything…
To all my awesome readers:
Stay tuned for my food post, that will probably be up later or tomorrow!